— UNDERSTAND · NAVIGATE · GROW · TOGETHER

Find your bearings in unfamiliar waters.

Maria Pitale, Psy.D. offers neurodiversity-affirming therapy, neurodevelopmental assessment, and family support for toddlers through young adulthood.

— BENEATH THE SURFACE

Calmer waters begin with deeper understanding

Parents often arrive after weathering confusing diagnoses, conflicting advice, difficult school meetings, and moments of anxiety and uncertainty.

Behavior gives us information, but it does not tell the whole story. The same action can come from many different sources: different sensory needs, emotions, sensory experiences, relationships, or attempts to feel safe. My role is not to take over the helm. It is to listen, stay curious, and help your family recognize the currents beneath the surface.

| Together we’ll navigate what comes next.

A clearer course for your family.

— HOW I HELP

Each service begins with the child or family in front of me—not a predetermined route or a one-size-fits-all map.

01 · PLAY THERAPY

A relationship where your child can be fully themselves

Flexible, play-based, neurodiversity-affirming therapy that meets vulnerability and dysregulation with safety, connection, and curiosity - not pressure to perform or comply.

02 · CAREGIVER THERAPY & SUPPORT GROUP

A place for parents to feel understood

Connection either with me or other parents navigating a different kind of parenting journey - without judgment, simple fixes, or the expectation that you should have it all figured out.

03 · NEURODEVELOPMENTAL & AUTISM ASSESSMENT

Understanding - not a list of deficits

A collaborative, strengths-aware evaluation designed to make sense of your child’s individual profile. The report becomes a practical roadmap for understanding, accommodations, and advocacy.

04 · SIBLING SUPPORT GROUP

Space for siblings’ experiences, too

A supportive setting where siblings can connect, express what family life feels like for them, and make room for their own needs and perspectives.

Quote saying, 'The course becomes clearer when children are truly understood,' over a background with overlapping circles in shades of blue, beige, and white.

—APPROACH

Guided by relationship.
Grounded in understanding.

Neurodiversity-affirming care does not ignore distress. It helps us understand the waters that your child is navigating — and refuses to frame the person as something to fix.

The child has a voice

Children are participants in their care, not simply subjects discussed by adults.

Felt safety comes first

Sensory needs, pacing, environment, and relationships matter before meaningful work can happen.

Parents are partners

You bring lifelong knowlege of your child. I bring clinical experience. We need both to find the way forward..

Advocacy is part of care

Understanding should lead to useful accommodations, stronger self-advocacy and practical next steps.

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— MEET MARIA

I am a licensed neurodivergent psychologist, a parent of neurodivergent children, an advocate, a resource finder, and a person who believes humor belongs in hard rooms.

Meet Maria- a genuine connection starts here.

Across more than 20 years in clinical, school, and research settings, I have learned that children who are most misunderstood do not need a focus on compliance, consequenes, or a stricter manual. They need adults curious to wonder what’s happening beneath the surface.

Parenthood made that understanding personal. I know what it is like to navigate systems, search for the right support, advocate at school, and worry about what comes next. That experience keeps me humble about what professional expertise can —and cannot —tell us on its own.

The synergy of my professional and personal experiences as a bilingual psychologist and graduate of Widener’s doctoral program, has helped me recognize the importance of what is happening with the underlying current for the child, in addition to observable factors impacting the child and family.

It is my aim to help the family and child to look inward and embrace the value of understanding the inner compass experience. This can help us to guide the child and family back to a place where they feel more regulated and ready to move forward.

When we understand what’s underneath, we can support what comes next.

— A BIT ABOUT ME

Authentic relationships are part of the work.

I believe healing happens through authentic relationships. When you meet me, you’ll meet a licensed psychologist with years of experience, but you also will meet the same Maria I bring to everyday life: curious, compassionate, genuine, and fully present.

The importance of values based care.

Providing values-based care keeps my practice aligned with how I want to provide care. It also helps me build a robust network of options for caregivers who are parenting a child who is following their own map rather than the one their parents are trying to use.

These families recognize that by integrating the input from their child this helps them to plot their own course as they co-create their own new map which allows them to move forward.

Not all children learn best in traditional school settings.

The world needs all kinds of brains, yet public school often does not know how to support them.

For families choosing an alternative learning journey, taking an individualized path can shift a child from distress and struggling to flourishing.

My connection with Jacob’s Ladder is a personal one, and I am so thankful for their ability to connect and meet my child where he was. Their affirming approach to connecting with children in nature helped me feel hope. I am eternally thankful for their support and to have a child-centered option to recommend for caregivers.

Providing a better way.

The focus within schools on observable behavior, compliance, and consequences has the potential for harm to children and educators, especially when there is the use of seclusion and restraint.

I am proud to be one of the inaugural members of EndSarNJ as the Lead on the Parent committee initially as a volunteer, and now a Board Member.

Surrounded by a group of passionate professional women, we are committed to keeping students and educators safe.

In my role on the Parent Committee, as a volunteer, I provide free confidential support to caregivers whose children have experienced seclusion and restraint in a monthy support group. Individual support is also available. We are here to support you. Please reach out if we can support you in some way.

Training, frameworks, and values I draw from.

— APPROACHES THAT GUIDE MY WORK

Tina Bryson and Play Strong: Play Therapy, Interpersonal Neurobiology and Neurodiversity Conference: An Interdisciplinary Approach to Treatment with the Brain in Mind

— WHAT CARE CAN LOOK LIKE

Every journey begins by finding your bearings.

A small compass on a beige, textured fabric surface, with the needle pointing north.

Your child’s inner compass offers direction. Together we will navigate what comes next.

Beginning in the least stressful way

That might mean starting virtually, visiting the office informally, or letting your child see the space before being asked to participate.

Making room for sensory needs.

We can consider lighting, smells, movement, comfort objects, breaks, and other details that help the nervous system feel safer.

Adjusting the course as your child guides us

If your child does not have the spoons that day, we can slow down, shift focus, or find another way forward

Offering choices without overwhelm

I share a thoughtful range of resources and options— a buffet not a mandate-at a pace that feels manageable for your family.

—EXPLORING A LENS SHIFT

Useful resources for a lens shift.

I am always interested in learning from others who embrace a neuro-affirming approach to care. Below are some of my favorite people, podcasts, books, and websites that feed my curiosity, align with how I practice, and influence how I provide care.

Diane Gould, LCSW, PDA North America

Kristy Forbes, Educator, Advocate, Intune Pathways

Ross Greene, Collaborative and Proactive Solutions

Mona DelaHooke, PhD, pediatric psychologist, brain-body parenting

Dan Siegel, PhD, Interpersonal Neurobiology

Tina Payne Bryson, Play Strong, The Center for Connection

Lisa Dion, RPT, Synergetic Play Therapy

Greg Santucci, OT, Model of Child Engagement

Kelsie Micks Olds, The Occuplaytionalist

Kelly Mahler, OT, Interoception Curriculum

Linda Murphy, MS, CCC-SLP, Declarative Language and Co-Regulation

“Em” Emily Lowery, speech therapist, Neurowild, affirming cartoons

Affirming Professionals

Podcasts

Uniquely Human

The Neurodiversity Podcast

Born to Be Free

Full-Tilt Parenting

Books

The Explosive Child

Declarative Language Handbook

Co-Regulation Handbook

Uniquely Human

The Whole Brain Child

No Drama Discipline

Uniquely Human

Beyond Behaviors

Brain-Body Parenting

Different Not Less

Me and My PDA

The Educator’s Experience of Pathological Demand Avoidance

Life on an Alien Planet

The Kids Guide to Staying Awesome and In Control

Programs and Frameworks

Autism Level Up, Jac Fede and Amy Laurent

Social Cipher

Interoception Curriculum

— FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Questions families often bring.

A few practical details before reaching out.

Have a question or
want to connect?

Send me a quick note about how you think I could help. I will get back to you within 2 business days.